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Valentine's Day - UGGGHHHHHPosted Thursday, February 10, 2011, at 8:35 AM
I do not like Valentine's Day. What? You decided you love someone on this one day so you have to go out and buy flowers, jewelry, and chocolates? Or have they just come to expect a prize to appease them for the rest of the year for all the effort they have to put in for putting up with you? If you have to ask, maybe you don't really love them, you are just so comfortable in a marriage that things are implied(that's a whole different blog).
I know some will argue that it is supposed to be a day to appreciate your loved one, but if you love them then shouldn't you do that every day? I've had some beautiful Valentine's Days in the past, but not one of them compares to a loving card brought home for no reason, or a flower picked out of a field just because you were thinking of me. I would rather be thought of and loved all year round than given the illusion I am cared for for one day because the prettiest flowers were delivered to me at work. Valentine's Day (just like Christmas) has become a consumer holiday. We buy things we can't afford, sometimes for people we don't even like. How about instead of buying something do something nice for the one you love. It will not cost you anything. Clean the house, fix something that has been on the honey do list forever,watch their favorite sappy sweet / blood and gore movie, prepare their favorite meal, just tell them you love them and care about them...oh wait make it all about them for just a few hours. Some will say I'm bitter about relationships, but I'm really realistic. It is work to be in one, but if you work together it doesn't really seem like work anymore. Relationships are a funny thing. They have to change as you go along and to think it only took me 20+ years of relationships to figure this out. I'm not wise or really good at anything but giving advice on things I know about. Experience teaches us things, even if we didn't really want to know and I've had good and bad experiences with realtionships. Appreciate the one you love all the time. Tell them you love them and care about them on July 16th and well as February 14th and all the days in between. Love, appreciation, caring, and respect are precious commodities and very hard to come by these days. To me they are worth more than gold, roses, or coco treats. Opinions anyone? Come on, I know you all have them. Comments Showing comments in chronological order [Show most recent comments first] |
Troxler, a native of Bedford County, lived in Shelbyville all her life, until recently moving to Unionville. She has three teenagers. She's an amateur photographer.
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Well said and I agree 100 percent! The only thing I want from my guys on Valentines Day is family time.
Very well said, Meredith. My husband and I practice this every day. No one day is any more special than the other. We tell each other we love each other everyday.
I've agree with you, love is a work in progress. But working on it when two are committed to loving each other, doesn't really make it feel like "work."
I've heard the old cliche that "love is a 50 - 50 proposition." In my opinion if you're not giving 100%, then you are not committed to the other person and are short changing yourself and your partner.
You have learned some great life lessons and not all the lessons were easy or fun. Keep sharing them with us so we may take a "step back" and grow too.
All good points, but I sure don't want one of my 'life lessons' to be forgetting a card or something extra on Valentines Day.
I agree it is out of proportion but V-Day can also be a day that motivates someone to speak up about their love for someone, or just that they care.
I can still remember the flushed face I had in 3rd grade when I presented what I thought to be an extra special card to a girl with whom I had crush.
Speaking of crush, I could not find a good theory on how we came to use crush to mean romantic infatuation. Most definitions are extremely opposite. Can you imagine a person not used to our language when we say we had a crush on someone?
Anyway, I think V-Day is a harmless way to stop our crazy world to same something special to someone. Some years ago I used to work with a woman who seemed very alone. No family left, husband and passed on and she was not well connected to the community. I used V-Day to send her a small bouquet to say someone still cared and loved her, even though she never knew who it was, or at least I don't think so.
You know, we have a candidate for that tradition this year. Thanks for stirring the memories. Debbi has said to not get flowers, so maybe she will like reviving this with our friend.
Good comment Steve . . . I think it's a great reminder to us to think of those who might not hear "I love you" every day . . . and do something about it!
Very well said. My biggest pet peeve is someone buying me a card! It's a gigantic waste of money (sorry Hallmark), but (to me), I would rather have a homemade card, an I love you and a hug. (One year my mother in law sent 5 cards for 1 holiday!! 2 for each kid and 1 for us. She may/may not have gotten a discount on them, but she sure likes to pay postage!)
My husband said to me a few weeks ago that we need to do something for V-day...that he wanted to take me on a date. We can't afford it and we won't do it, but it was the fact that he said he wanted to that meant everything to me. It's the "little" things that money can't buy that matter. Every day and always!
i agree.. i just think it is over blown.. i like the every day things..i have seen women hact like idiots on valentines day cuse they did not get what they wanted or expected.. too much pressure on loved ones.
My husband doesn't believe in valentine's day either...or flowers for no reason, or foot messages, or "I love you" just because....hmm, maybe I should trade in for a newer model, lol. I'm kidding on that last part.