Did you ignore it, attempt to interfere or notify law enfocement?
I still do not believe they can make you appear at court; I would get advice from an attorney.
rebelrose, I don't think it's "his right to know".
No I did not file a complaint. She came to our door asking my husband to use our phone because her boyfriend had locked her out of the house and would not give her their baby and he had kicked her and hit her in the head and was drunk. She said he was mad cause her other 3 children had ate up the food and he was mad. She stayed at our front door for about 20 minutes and said she wanted to go back over to the house to check on the baby and was scared to go alone. I called the police and asked them to come out because he had the baby and was drunk. She asked us not to call the police because he was on probation at the time and would go to jail. When I called them I asked 1st if they would not use my name when going out to the house and I was told they would not.. I was not going to walk over there with her with out knowing some kind of help was on the way. And once they put him in the car they told him who called the police on him.I called them back and asked why they told him when I had asked them not to and they said ok. I was told it was his right to know. One officer even walked over to my house before they took him away because when they got to the house I came back home. A officer asked me who I was when they got there and I told them. The officer stood in my home and told us that they would not tell him I called them.
rebelrose I do not think it is a good idea right now to be involved with this family. You don't make the move, let them come to you if need to. If you continue to try and make contact it may give him reasons to confront you on this court issue and be ugly about it. Do not go on their property, stay away from the kids. If the woman asks you for food or things for easter, and you want to give then that would be OK, but do not make the approach, let them come to you for the help.
I have a question for you; Did "you" file a complaint against this man, or just called the police stating your neighbors are fighting? They can not make you go to court for this, "You did not file a charge against this man, right".
rebelrose, just my opinion and not worth much but you don't appear to know alot about these people. Maybe they don't even celebrate Easter and don't want their children celebrating either??
UPDATE on me going to court today. The DA called me yesterday afternoon and said that they would have a fill in Judge today and that nothing big was going to be settled today on this person I was having to go to court on. It would all be small things. That I will be Subpoena again to go to court at another time. He said that it would more than likely go to trail. I do not know what all they have against him. I just do not want him to come back home and take it out on his girlfriend because she came to our home to use the phone. I know that they do not have alot of money and I want to ask if it would be wrong of me to make up 4 Easter Baskets and sit them on the front Porch for the children to find on Easter Morning. They took the Christmas gifts on Christmas Eve from us for their children. But when my son and I went over with 2 boxes of food on New Years Eve he would not let her except the food for the children.It was 2 days after I called the Law on him.One of the things he was yelling about that night he was drunk and locked her out was that 3 of her children ate up all the food and there was nothing to eat when he got home and the only thing to drink was water. That is why my son and I went thru all we had here and fixed 2 boxes of food from eggs all the way to a Ham to give to them to help out. This morning as my husband took things to the Post Ofice to be mailed to the grandkids for Easter I couldn't stop thinking about the children across the street and wonder if they will have the Easter Bunny visit them. Would it be wrong of me to give them each a Basket for Easter. I could sit it on the porch and not let them know it was from me so he would let them have it.
rebelrose, that was a good thing you have done. You may have helped this woman and child in the long run. Most abuse women do not report it for fear, so their is no record of the abuse. Do not let this man intimidate you. He has no control over you, but he does of this woman that is why she is afraid to seek help. If he feels he has you afraid of him then he will control you into not getting help. If he approaches you, do not give him the impression you are scarred of him, you have a right to defend yourself by "ANY MEANS NECCESSARY".
And you let him get the impression that if you had to you will not hesitate to "Call the police, Shoot in Self defense, or what ever it takes to defend yourself". And he will Stay clear from you, may even move away from your neighborhood. Don't let him Intimidate you, that gives him control. The police officer that told him you were the one that called the police on him, was very wrong and have placed you in danger. I would seek advice from an attorney, not one in the same county as the police dept. on what can be done for the problem he has caused you. The police do not have to tell people who called the police on them. "Just a concerned Citizen" would have been appropriate enough. I hope everything works out for the best for you, This woman needs to think about the safety of her child before some sorry, good for nothing man. She can do better, if he doesn't want to do better. Just remember, she came to your door step for help; you have done your part. You did not go to their house in their business, Keep your head up. And keep on trucking with your daily life, go to court say your peace and go on about your business. But ask that attorney about what all is going on, if you have to be a witness or not. Most people that call the police for someone, or a crime do not have to go to court. So ask this attorney about that.
Getting involved in domestic violence is a bad situation. On one hand you feel you need to help in protecting the abused. On the other hand, if you do involve yourself, then the abuser could come after you. I partially agree with seedsower, my children got their share of spankings when telling them "don't do that" didn't work. You can spank a child without being abusive. I hope everything goes well with you, rebelrose. Trying to get help for the innocent in this town is almost impossible. If you were the criminal, you'd get all the protection you'd ever want and then some.
seedsower that is what I was scared of when the girlfriend came to our home to use the phone and said he was in the house with the baby drunk and locked the door on her and would not let her have the baby or in the home. I was scared he would hit the baby and she was scared to go back to the house alone so I called the police so they would come before I walked over to the house with her. Alot of adults that turn to drinking and drugs and spouse beatings were beat as a child. You just can not get off the thing about giving a child a good beating can you. The only protection I got from the DA when I called them and told them I did not want to go to court against him was " Tell your husband to go over to the house and tell him I do not want any problems from him.
Sure it does, nascaretardatic
Seedsower, that has no relevance... whatsoever!
I bet you wish someone would have spanked him and trained him to walk in the right path when he was a child.
They didn't send you protection?? That is very strange. Did this guy threaten you at all?
I guess you can call it a crime. On New Year's Eve the girl across the road came to our door while I was cooking and asked my Husband he she could use our phone cause her boyfriend was drunk and hit and kicked her and locked her out and was holding her 15 month old baby inside and would not let her back in.She was very scared for her baby and asked us not to call the police. I called anyways and now I wish I had not. I asked them to not let them know I called but they told him on the way to jail who called.We had taken gifts over to there home on christmas eve for their children cause they have nothing. Then a few day's after the fight my son and I took a big box of food over to them cause she had said they had no food in the house. He was out of jail by then and when we got to the door he was yelling and cussing and said I better get off the porch and would not let his girlfriend take the food cause he knew I called the police.Now I have to go to court over this and I do not want to. He is not a very nice person.We live out in the country and I am alone all day and he does not work. I do not know what he will do when he finds out I will be in court on Wed. I called the DA and told them I am scared for my life or what he may do around my home if I come to court. I was told too bad I have to be there and if I do not show up I could be arrested. So I do not know if we should get involed sometimes.
I've witnessed several and called police with exception of one where a guy threw a rock through a window of the T-G, not realizing I was inside, and it rolled right up to me on the floor.
When we lived in Philadelphia we saw one of our neighbors threatening to beat his wife - he was pounding on the door trying to get in, it was really scary. My husband called the police, as we knew (because we heard them all the time) that they fought a lot, and we were afraid for her.
I have witnessed a few crimes such as a wreck and trying to leave the scene of the accident, someone shoplifting, etc I either notified the police or the store manager.
I have never Witnessed a crime in progress but I do love that show "What would you do" I think it is Prime Time that does it
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