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Sorry experts. I love my wife!

Posted Thursday, June 3, 2010, at 2:43 PM

When word came out Wednesday that Al and Tipper Gore were separating after 40 years of marrriage I was shockeed and disappointed, not just for the Gores but for anyone taking such action after 40 years of marriage.

Unfortunately, this also turned loose all of the so-called and usually self-proclaimed experts on how many married couples should end their marriage and start a new life.

One woman, who said she was 60, said she looked forward to being a girl again.Yeah, sure. I've never known a 60-year-old girl. Haye you?

And there was the man, 65,who saw the end of his marriage as a means of pursuit of the career he always dreamed of building. Do you suppose he wanted to join the circus?

My wonderful wife and I will have been married 53 years the 23rd of this month. I would marry her again every second of that time. I don't even want to think about life without her.

I still like what Bum Phillips, the longtime coach of the Houston Oilers had to say about experts. Phillips said an "expert ain't nothing but an ordinary fellow out of town."


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From the little I have heard about this, I have to say that seem to be pretty laid back about it. I certainly can not, nor do I want to judge their decision, but I agree, it is sad.

-- Posted by stevemills on Thu, Jun 3, 2010, at 3:26 PM

I wonder if global warming affected their marriage?

-- Posted by quietmike on Thu, Jun 3, 2010, at 5:33 PM

Once again Mike we can count on you for tasteless rabid right behavior. (not to say there are not rabid lefts just as hate filled as you out there)

Any time a marriage breaks up it is a sad thing and not to be taken in jest or belittled with tacky jokes. True some break ups are unavoidable ( such as in abusive ones) and even then it is the end of a dream and promise of a life time of love. To be callous and flippant about it just low class. It shows the kind of lack of respect for the union that makes people so susceptible to what I have heard referred to as the "disposable relationship".

Mr. Melson Congratulations on a long and happy union, you are a great example to those who may question what it is all about. We have 33 years under our belts, not all easy but the rough spots only go to make the rest of it more cherished. We need to continue to show that is it possible to stay together as it used to be said "through thick and thin".

-- Posted by wonderwhy on Thu, Jun 3, 2010, at 7:46 PM

On the contrary, Tipper has my respect for getting shed of the shyster.

He has always been a pathological liar, I'm amazed she has tolerated it for so long.

-- Posted by quietmike on Thu, Jun 3, 2010, at 7:51 PM

If you were respectful of her you would not make such low class, tacky comments about something as important as her marriage. You have no real knowledge of their lives or why they split up, your comment was nothing more than political trash talk and they are your latest target.

-- Posted by wonderwhy on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 7:13 AM

Bo, I agree with you. My wife and I just celebrated our 50th Anniversary in the last couple of months. I too would do it all over again without a moments hesitation. I do not want a new life. She is my life and I expect it to be that way forever.

-- Posted by leeiii on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 7:41 AM

Bless you, Bo and you, Lee, for proving that there are men and women who can commit and care for each others for the rest of their lives. Terry and I will be having our 23rd anniversary this September, and I can not imagine life without my best friend.

-- Posted by MotherMayhem on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 10:18 AM

What if you have been married x number (SEVERAL )yrs. and your spouse commits adultery? Do you continue to love him/her and not lose all trust? My opinion it all depends how your spouse is acting after 40 yrs.

-- Posted by Bedford Co. resident on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 2:17 PM

There are many men who commit to their marriage. It is not always the man who is at fault. I have been married to my wife of 25 years and she also has decided she no longer wants to be married. She also wants to start a new life. she has been well provided for and loved. It is my worst nightmare, but guess what? I will survive and I will miss her, and move on without her. Who knows what is in store? Might be a better life, who knows. Don't automatically blame the man for the breakup in a marriage. Tipper cited Al's absence from home while promoting his book....Well wonder where Tipper thinks those two homes and upscale lifestyle came from? Al is a saint in light of a woman who is ungrateful for the sacrifices her husband makes to provide her with the lifestyle she loves. Sorry, I don't see any big loss Al, move on......

-- Posted by chs61 on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 5:56 PM

Bo, Your sterling marriage record is commendable but I believe the real"power behind the throw" should be identified, HARRIET! We both "married up." I have only been married 49 years, but you always were a few steps ahead of me. It couldn't happen to a nicer guy!

-- Posted by jsutton on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 7:22 PM

Sorry Bo, I do know how to spell THRONE.

-- Posted by jsutton on Fri, Jun 4, 2010, at 7:30 PM

I am in a relationship right now where I am ran over, unapprecieated, taken for granted and ignored. I'm only 19 so to all the older people out there I guess I seem pretty stupid and inadequeate. But trust me, if I ever had a man that provided for me and wanted to make me happy and gave a rat's about my feelings and thoughts, I wouldn't let him go for the world. I'm with a man who makes me do EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HE SAYS and when I do he ignores it. Or complains. I know 19 is not very knowlegeable on the world and current events and to be honest I don't know who Al and Tipper Gore are, but I say if the path that they've chosen is going to make them both happier, both stronger and wiser, then take it. Go for it. If she's doing it because of something behind closed doors that the media dare not print, congratulations ma'am on standing up for yourself! However if this union ending milestone is not what either party wanted truely, I pray and give my condolences. I hope they both are happy either way. Everybody deserves to be happy no matter what it takes. I do to. I just don't have the strength to go out and get/do what makes me happy. Kudos and admiration to the men and women who do!

-- Posted by freakyfriday on Sat, Jun 5, 2010, at 6:08 PM

I think it's funny wonderwhy started attacking a fellow poster IMMEDIEATLY after she/he read the other man's post. Haha! She/he reminds me of dog at a fence struggiling to get all of the attenion. Sit girl sit. Good girl!

-- Posted by freakyfriday on Sat, Jun 5, 2010, at 6:09 PM

That was funny quietmike, if they care no more for their relationship than to let it go after 40 yrs then they are open for jokes.

Congrats to you Bo! I have been married 20 yrs this year and what I don't understand is why not start the second career with the one you love? My wife and I have both started over and walk the path together, much more fun with a friend that always has your back.

-- Posted by eglnation on Sat, Jun 5, 2010, at 6:27 PM

My wife and I have been together for nearly nine years and married for seven. I still believe that if God made a better woman, he kept her in heaven with him. I am so grateful that God loves me enough to trust me with her heart.

-- Posted by Tim Lokey on Sun, Jun 6, 2010, at 1:06 AM

Congratulations on the 50 plus years! I have 43 years to go but I hope to get there one day.

That Bum Phillips quote is good.

(nice tees and quotes about loving your wife/husband

http://bit.ly/tees_on_facebook )

-- Posted by ilmw! on Mon, Jun 7, 2010, at 10:27 AM

Bo knows marriage.........

-- Posted by Bjaj1 on Sat, Jun 12, 2010, at 1:49 PM


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Bo Melson is a retired sports and police beat editor of the Times-Gazette.
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