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One of my favorite Christmas stories. Not what you think.

Posted Thursday, December 15, 2011, at 8:54 AM

This was originally going to be one my rambling blogs, but the main thought that comes through is one of my Christmas memories from 1975. You are probably expecting a nice warm, fuzzy story but it did not feel that way at the time.

It should be widely known by now that the Holidays is often a time for some folks to really sink low with their emotions. Things may not be going well and the world seems to be happy all around you.

Well, my story is one of hope for the future, making it through the day, better in the morning, etc. No matter how bad the Holidays might seem, it will most likely get better in the days ahead.

On this particular Christmas my first "true love" of 6+ years had ended, I had lost everything financially, I was 1,000 miles away from any family and subsisting in a small, (very small) efficiency apartment.

I was working at a restaurant and even it was closed on Christmas so my work associates were somewhere else with friends, family or loved ones. A real bummer, as they said back then. :-)

Luckily, I found a friend who was able to take time from his family and spend some time with me. He went with me to the restaurant to do some prep work for the next day and then we looked for SOMETHING to do.

We ended up at a bowling alley and managed to have a decent day. I kept my mind off Christmas, my failed relationship, my non-existent finances and I now look back on that day as a sobering memory of Christmas past.

If you have to work Christmas day, keep in mind that you might be saving someone's day. Maybe share some Christmas wishes with them.

If you have a friend that you know will be spending it alone, check in on them, maybe even spend some of your day with them. You may never know how much it meant to them, but take comfort in knowing it DID mean a lot.

If you are in this situation, take heart that it will get better. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. If you can not find someone to share it with, my e-mail is Steve@bedfordtradingpost.com Write to me. Unless I am dead, I should get the e-mail and we will "talk".


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Steve - You say things so well. One of my favorite memories goes back to age 6. I was part of family with 7 children and we had been to Christmas play at small country Church. Each child recieved a goodie-bag with an apple, an orange, and assorted candies. While inside the Church, snow had fallen and there was a small hill to get back to the main road. of course the first few cars made it fine, but then the cars starting to slip and slide. The men of the Church starting pushing each car over the hill to get everyone home safely. Somehow my 'goodie-bag fell from the car and got crushed. Naturally, I began to cry until someone went back inside to bring me another. But I remember the laughter and the sense of people helping people. Merry Christmas to everyone and remember that in helping others comes Joy, Love & Peace.

-- Posted by ckna910 on Thu, Dec 15, 2011, at 10:15 AM

The season sure has a way of bringing out the best of us. It is still there at other times, but we get so caught up in "life" that it gets pushed back at times.

I have already received some private e-mails about this post. Everyone, PLEASE think about your acquaintances and if there is a suspicion that they could use some help or a friendly gesture, take the first step. It is often too overwhelming for them to reach out and ask.

Observe as you go about your daily life and you will also see strangers who could use a friendly hello or maybe a compliment on what they do. One that comes from a stranger can often make that person feel so much better.

But what can you compliment? Think about it. If you see someone in worn out clothing, but they have some type of adornment, that could be their one statement of wanting to be proud of themselves. If a stranger notices it, WOW!

If they are doing what appears to be a thankless job, thank them for doing it. What is a thankless job? Probably it is something that you would really not want to do. I won't put titles on that, just think.

It is a great time to get in touch with our humanity. Feel it?

-- Posted by stevemills on Thu, Dec 15, 2011, at 11:01 AM

ckna910, thank you for sharing your memories. I can easily imagine the scene you described. Small, community based churches must have thousands of memories like this and each one is priceless to those experiencing it.

-- Posted by stevemills on Thu, Dec 15, 2011, at 11:05 AM

Some very good points were made here ==="The season sure has a way of bringing out the best of us. It is still there at other times, but we get so caught up in "life" that it gets pushed back at times."

"If you have a friend that you know will be spending it alone, check in on them, maybe even spend some of your day with them. You may never know how much it meant to them, "

but why wait until this time of year ? why not practice "helping","GIVING " CARE AND CONCERN" all year long ?? we all know there are people who need it not only once a year,but everyday=======so let's put into practice===="Love for the true GOD and "Love for our neighbors" everyday

-- Posted by Zak on Fri, Dec 16, 2011, at 6:43 PM

Some are able to "pay it forward" all year long. It would sure be a beautiful thing if we could say that was the norm.

-- Posted by stevemills on Fri, Dec 16, 2011, at 8:13 PM


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Steve Mills and his wife have one daughter and live on a farm outside of Bell Buckle. They previously owned two coffee/ice cream shops, currently operate an internet sales company and teach classes, but his primary job involves the paper industry worldwide. Hobbies and interests lie in gardening, photography, recorded music and of course, their pets.