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Self talk: Rewinding, deleting and rerecording

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Our hearts and minds are like spiritual recording devices. They are constantly recording and storing messages into our data bank. We are born hungry for truth and our spirits are very receptive. As children, we are sponges, soaking up the world around us and believing the words of the people we know and trust. Then comes the outside voices, stimuli, and feedback that may or may not be truth, positive, or healthy.

Our data banks

As we grow we become a product of our data bank. Our spirits may have been injured over and over, instilling in us a sense of worthlessness, inferiority and hopelessness. This kind of data is usually inflicted on us by people who are injured, bitter and angry. By inflicting negatives on you, they can hope to bring you into their misery, in some ways this makes them feel better about themselves.

I know you have heard, "Misery loves company." Well, I invite you to refuse the invitation. These people need our prayers and to find their way to God for their healing.

Hopefully your messages were filled with love, inspiration, and truth. Positive reinforcements usually come from people who are grounded in their faith and at peace with themselves and God. As our tape continues to fill up, it will contain a mixture of data, some of which needs to remain and be stored, that which reiterates that we are just as our Heavenly Father says, "fearfully and wonderfully made," and some of which needs the "Delete" button, words of discouragement, insult and devaluation.

The connection

Scientists are repeatedly amazed at the power of the mind body connection. The mind has the ability to literally make us sick as well as help us to overcome illness. "As you believe, so you are." Romans 12: 2, "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind."

Who do you believe yourself to be? Do you believe that you are one of a kind, unique, capable and worthy of the wonderful life that God wants for you?

Consider His words: "For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

The thought process is a cycle. Imagine with me a triangle. At the top of the triangle is the thought, the thought will lead us to the action and the action to the results, which will then lead to the next thought. The results of the action will either have a positive or negative outcome which will lead us through the process over and over, producing more positives or negatives. Stop dwelling on the negatives, this unhealthy behavior is stealing precious moments of your life and taking with it the joy that is available to you.

The social connection, having friends and comrades whom you can trust, is also found to be an important link to better health and longevity. These people should be honest, supportive and looking out for you health and wellness. If your friends are constantly giving you ungrounded negative data, this is not a healthy relationship for you.

Stop the tape

As we journey, we must decide to stop replaying the false, negative messages. We have a choice as to what we will feed our minds and spirits and what we will spend our thought process on. I invite you to feed your mind and spirit with the loving words in the book that our Savior wrote for us.

"A spirit of power, of love, and of a sound mind" awaits you there along with the "peace that passes understanding".

I want to share a reading that I happened up on, it speaks loudly about how our thoughts can and will affect our ultimate outcome.

"A Native American elder walks slowly down the path. The leaves of the trees and the soft breeze protect him from the heat of the noonday sun. In his worn, calloused hand is the small, soft hand of his young grandson. The two walk in silence. After a time the grandfather interrupts the silence. "Grandson," he begins, "there are two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is angry, vengeful, jealous and violent. The other wolf is peaceful, loving, compassionate and joyful." The boy looks up at his grandfather and asks, "Which wolf will win the battle of your heart?" The wise elder replies: "The one I feed."

Which wolf will you feed? It is your decision how you will spend your precious gift of life. Your time is your life and happiness and peace is your choice. Search and pull the files in your mind that have had a negative effect on your life. Old habits die hard, so this process will take time and determination. Please take some time to make a list of your negative data, either from outside sources or from self talk. For each negative thought, choose a positive one to replace it.

How do you learn?

Choose your learning style. If you learn by hearing, when you have a negative thought, say that you reject it and release it to God. Then give it to Him, He knows just what to do with it.

If you learn by seeing, imagine in your mind's eye deleting the thought, the NO symbol, handing it over God as it disappears.

If you learn by doing, write the thought down, tear it to shreds and put it in the trash.

What dominates your thoughts? The Book says to "take every thought captive". Are your thoughts productive, are they constructive, are they positive? What expression do you wear on your face most of the time?

What state is your body in? Do a tension check. Are you tense? Your body will react to a negative mental state in unpleasant ways; aching muscles, fatigue, headache, stomach issues, depression.

Please use deep breathing and relaxation techniques often during your day.

What are you spending your time doing? Spending time is spending life. Each day is your gift: unwrap it, love it, care for it, enjoy it, be thankful for it and don't let anyone or anything steal your gift or your joy!

Seize the moment! Live in it and look forward to the wonderful opportunities God has in store for you!

-- Jennifer Jarrell is a resident of Bedford County, a realtor, and a life coach and personal trainer. She inspires others through motivational speaking, nutritional, physical, and spiritual coaching, camps and group classes. You can reach her at (931)703-0667 or jjarrell@realtracs.com.

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Yes! Awesome! Great! Thank you, Jennifer, for writing this!!

-- Posted by realsimple2000 on Mon, Jan 23, 2012, at 3:51 PM

Terrific article, Jennifer, and I can't agree more about stopping your negative thoughts "right in their tracks." In fact, something you might find interesting is that when you can maintain a positive mindset long enough, your body actually becomes addicted to the chemicals that the positive thoughts are manufacturing in the mind. When this happens, your body finds ways to "get its fix" of happy chemicals by helping you maintain happier thoughts. I explain more about this on my positive thinking website where I also talk about how to stop the negative thoughts in their tracks. But the article that you may finding interesting that talks about becoming addicted to the happy thoughts can be found at: http://www.effective-positive-thinking.c...

-- Posted by Effective Positive Thinking on Wed, Feb 1, 2012, at 1:58 PM

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Jennifer Jarrell
Jennifer Jarrell is a resident of Bedford County, a realtor, and a life coach and personal trainer. She inspires others through motivational speaking, nutritional, physical, and spiritual coaching, camps and group classes. You can reach her at 931-703-0667 or jjarrell@realtracs.com.