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Steve Mills

Were things this crazy 40-50 years ago or....?

Posted Tuesday, May 8, 2012, at 9:14 PM
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  • I don't believe that parents were so irresponsible before the 1980's compared to today. Parents actually cared about their children and raised them. They cared about how their children presented themselves in public along with the manners and respect that their children gave.

    But now, parents would rather be BFF's with their kids. They let the TV and PC be the parent and babysitter. They no longer care to raise their children nor do they take the time to pay attention to them.

    -- Posted by -Beth- on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 7:04 AM
  • There has always been "bad" parents there just was not the media to bring it to the attention of society. Back then it was more word of mouth when parents did horrible things, only the worst of the worst making it to media. But today we have 24 hour almost unlimited Tv, we have the internet, and the are shows like To Catch a Preditor that help bring awareness to how close to home the stories can happen. We have Amber Alert, and other ways to make people aware of what goes on.

    But it is not just "bad " parents that effect the decline in the manners and behavior of children. With the decline in the economy there are many parents out there who are having to sacrifice much of their parenting time for extra hours at work to just make ends meet. There are only so many hours in a day, and there are things that just have to be done - when schedules get stretched and over extended to a snapping point everything suffers, and the kids are on the top of that list. It is not neglect so much as just not enough hours in a day. It is one thing to be able to spend all your time and efforts to raise your children, and a whole other game changer when you have to add a full time out of the home job or two to the mix, which is what is happening in many homes as the good jobs have dwindled and have been replaced by two lower wage jobs.It is not like these folks can just hire maids and nannies- they actually have the all the responsibility and do it themselves.

    -- Posted by wonderwhy on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 8:18 AM
  • Decades of telling folks that nothing is their responsibility or fault is taking its toll.

    Watch the movie "Idiocracy" and it will all make sense.

    -- Posted by quietmike on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 12:10 PM
  • When our daughter was 11, we decided to close up our business to give more time to taking her places for school, social and experiences. The loss of income hurt, NO DOUBT.

    It has and continues to create challenges, but we are still living and our daughter just graduated from MTSU with honors, so we feel the sacrifice was worth it. (She would not have had to graduate from school to make it worth it but.... it was nice.

    We were not always her friend and I am sure there were times that she thought she hated us, but with age comes wisdom and she seems to appreciate all we have done for her.

    -- Posted by stevemills on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 1:03 PM
  • It is a process, and while we can see only 50 yrs or so of it in our lifetime, it is outlined for us below. It was written long ago by one who knows and has seen the same scenario repeat itself.

    In a word "selfishness".

    Ro 1:22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools,

    Ro 1:23 and changed the glory of the incorruptible God for the likeness of an image of corruptible man, and of birds, and four-footed beasts, and creeping things.

    Ro 1:24 Wherefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts unto uncleanness, that their bodies should be dishonored among themselves:

    Ro 1:25 for that they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.

    Ro 1:26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile passions: for their women changed the natural use into that which is against nature:

    Ro 1:27 and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another, men with men working unseemliness, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was due.

    Ro 1:28 And even as they refused to have God in [their] knowledge, God gave them up unto a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not fitting;

    Ro 1:29 being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malignity; whisperers,

    Ro 1:30 backbiters, hateful to God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,

    Ro 1:31 without understanding, covenant-breakers, without natural affection, unmerciful:

    Ro 1:32 who, knowing the ordinance of God, that they that practise such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but also consent with them that practise them.

    There is hope, but it does not with the selfish man.

    -- Posted by Liveforlight on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 1:55 PM
  • Part of the problem is that you can't give what you don't have.

    If people (of whatever age) are still children themselves,they can't take on adult responsibilities or model grown-up behavior.

    Too many people have become parents without the skills or awareness necessary to do that job properly.

    For every mother or father who lacks nothing more than time,money,health or life experience,there are people who lack the will and the wisdom to support offspring.

    Their children are not meant to be "borrowed" from family members or sitters then returned when they are more inconvenient than amusing.

    These sons and daughters are not housepets to fawn over and show off one minute and leave to fend for themselves the next.

    Even more than plants,life partners or animal companions,children require a long,permanent commitment that is less about providing money or other material things and more about giving love and security.

    Since children need adult assistance from somewhere,we need to reach out to *all* our youth to see that they have the physical health to grow in body and mind,the education to understand their world and develop their gifts,the mentoring to believe in themselves and the opportunities to perform to the best of their abilities.

    Even the best equipped parents can't do it all and the worst don't care to do what they can.

    If we don't nurture our young,we will wind up with a generation that is even less capable of self-sufficiency,contributing to society or crafting a functional family.

    -- Posted by quantumcat on Wed, May 9, 2012, at 10:25 PM
  • We've become dependent upon gaming systems, the internet and the television to "baby-sit" and often even teach our children values that long ago stopped being taught at home. The family unit has been fractured by the very things that were supposed to save us time and bring convenience to our lives. How many families actually sit down together and eat meals at the family table anymore?

    In our attempt to create material success and satisfy our own sense of vanity, we have neglected our most precious asset and as a society, we have finally arrived at the train wreck we could all see coming, but very few did anything to avoid.

    -- Posted by Tim Lokey on Thu, May 10, 2012, at 1:32 AM
  • When my children were younger and I was in the workforce, I always made time for my kids. I would work up to 60 hours a week and be exhausted, since I was taking care of them by myself. But, I always took time to be with my kids. Even if that meant that I went without sleep. My kids did stay at a daycare while I was at work. But, if I had the day off, my kids were always with me.

    When we go outside now and play, it is like we are in another world because we are the only ones outside playing. Occasionally some kids will put down the technology and come outside. But very rarely will you ever see their parents outside.

    If you don't want to spend the time with your children and care to give them the knowledge and encouragement that they need to become respectful strong adults, then you should not have children. They are not like puppies. You cannot give them away to the shelter after they are no longer the cute and cuddly.

    I do think that some kids and adults, jump right into parenthood without thinking what it is going to take to raise them. It's not as easy as you see on TV shows. It takes dedication and hard work to raise children.

    -- Posted by PrpleHze on Thu, May 10, 2012, at 6:58 AM
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