Bedford Ramblings
Steve Mills

Having FUN as deterrent to extreme antisocial actions.

Posted Monday, June 23, 2014, at 6:30 AM
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  • Play: How it shapes the brain, Opens the imagination, And Invigorates the soul............By Stuart brown.

    -- Posted by Palindrome on Mon, Jun 23, 2014, at 6:59 AM
  • What a title! In searching for this I found this YouTube http://www.ted.com/talks/stuart_brown_says_play_is_more_than_fun_it_s_vital and listening to it as I write this.

    Really interesting and full of potential.

    -- Posted by stevemills on Mon, Jun 23, 2014, at 9:09 AM
  • Laughter the best medicine? I believe this could definitely be one solution. It is very hard to be depressed and laughing at the same time.

    -- Posted by Liveforlight on Mon, Jun 23, 2014, at 4:41 PM
  • There is a lot to be said about the benefits of laughter, play and health. Was it Norman Cousins who took an approach of laughter to help his illness?

    Does anyone know the history of some of these folks to know how their childhood influenced them? I know I used to get sick of haring about how bad someone had it when they committed horrible crimes. For them it is too late but what about others growing up in similar conditions? Can we help?

    Can we help organize more events throughout the year, then maybe try to get that kind of movement nationally? If someone has recently had a fun time and can see more fun times ahead would they slip into depression and want to hurt and kill others?

    I suppose it can still happen, but wouldn't the frequency be bound to drop?

    -- Posted by stevemills on Mon, Jun 23, 2014, at 8:39 PM
  • Almost all of the shooters are young white males. It would seem that there is something in particular affecting this group of people more than others. A lack of recreation/play or an overwhelming sense of despair?

    I had heard/read that ALL of these instances involved shooters who had been taking psychotic drugs for various mental health problems. Perhaps instead of prescribing drugs, the prescription should be to invest time in these young men to show them how to enjoy their lives.

    -- Posted by Liveforlight on Mon, Jun 23, 2014, at 9:37 PM
  • Hmmm, "go to four events before our next visit and tell me what you think of them." .

    Then give them a list of "meet ups" in the area or other things to do like a fair, dance, garden club, science exhibit, concert, art exhibit, video game club, sports game, spelunking etc.

    Get them early to open their eyes to other things. Maybe not even a physical gathering (yet) but some fun books or movies to see.

    -- Posted by stevemills on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 5:14 AM
  • I fished, I fished a lot actually and when I could not find a friend to go I went alone. Dad worked all the time and really didn't care much for fishing, I went by myself quite often and found contentment,and love and appreciation for nature. I found myself proud at times of being really great at being able to catch good fish and felt I had mastered the art of it. I found it to keep me busy and focused on something I was interested in. Kids today need a focus or hobby, or something that gets them off the couch, out of their rooms, something creative or an endeavor where they can feel pride and accomplishment in themselves.

    When I was not fishing I was usually out running the neighborhood on a bike or playing kick the can with friends. Times have changed, and safety is a greater factor now due to the ways of the world out there for sure, but a controlled group environment like a kickball game, fish-n-camp or hike in the wild are now great alternatives.

    Its so easy to babysit teens with idle behavior stimuli like computers or video games and most the time there is no real reality factors involved in this kind of idleness. To get out and see the real world, interact with others, be hands on involved with things can make a huge difference in the lives of young people, especially in thinking and reasoning.

    After all our minds are like computers in a way you put garbage or fantasy in you get garbage and fantasy back out if that's all that's in ones environment.

    -- Posted by chefgrape on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 9:30 AM
  • The world is different now......

    They've got the whole world in their hands........

    Without the real connection.........

    -- Posted by Palindrome on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 10:20 AM
  • Leads to dislocation and improper perspective.

    -- Posted by Palindrome on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 11:31 AM
  • I didn't go fishing alone until I was maybe 7th grade. I am not sure if Mother's concern was other people or me falling in and not having help. Instead I would wonder the woods. We lived too far out to play with friends in town.

    Fishing was a big deal to me though. I can remember fishing in some VERY cold weather just because I had the itch or walking back with a 4-5 pound bass I caught in a pond far away. To ride it now, it was probably only 3-4 mile away but it sure felt a lot longer.

    It is a shame that I have not taken the time to fish for probably 15 years or more. The fish are not in much danger even if I went, but it sure was fun.

    You are right Palindrome, the whole world but little to no connection. I wonder how many of these kids take advantage of Skype like we used to do with PenPals. School might be a great place to start that and maybe they do, but do they continue it afterwards? Become friends with people in other parts of the world? Hmmm.

    You are right Liveforlight "Almost all of the shooters are young white males". That HAS to say something to our sociologist and psychologists! Why would they be so angry and disenfranchised from the community?

    Why are they more likely to act out their anger in this way, while other ethnic groups seem to handle it differently? Do the other ethnicities have tighter family groups, at least during childhood?

    -- Posted by stevemills on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 12:26 PM
  • Skype is hardly a warm hug...... It is just more of the same.....Hard-edged screen. One has to "feel" the connection...... Touch the connection........Use all of our senses.

    -- Posted by Palindrome on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 2:29 PM
  • You mean contact like the new picture I posted about the cats?

    -- Posted by stevemills on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 2:44 PM
  • Exactly......No doubt worn out from being giddy, silly kittens.

    -- Posted by Palindrome on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 3:10 PM
  • Maybe that is why we do not have nasty tempered cats, but we do actually have two that do not have a sense of humor. One was picked up on the side of the road in East Tennessee and the other did not have a playmate until it was over a year old.

    Hmmm, maybe we ARE on to something.

    I have cut back on my cell phone use. Pretty much business, this blog and garden club. Most fo the groups I belong to on LinkedIn and Facebook wait until I have time to sit down at the computer.

    -- Posted by stevemills on Tue, Jun 24, 2014, at 3:46 PM
  • There is a community event being organized in July/ A minimal charge at the door of $10 for adults and $5 for kids of "school age" but maybe some churches can "sponsor" their kids. Here is the link to the T-G news article http://www.t-g.com/story/2095101.html

    If you cannot get it, let me know and I will post more details here.

    -- Posted by stevemills on Wed, Jun 25, 2014, at 9:05 AM
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